Consider rest if you are in a position to do so

(Today's column is dedicated to Kathryn Foster Perry, who died on July 28. She was the mother of one of my dearest friends, Lisa Ann. Mrs. Perry was intelligent, kind, gracious, gentle and generous, attributes possessed by her daughter. All who knew her will miss her. We will also rally around Lisa.)

It is said that sporting events are metaphor for life.

But when's the last time a ref granted your request for a time out after you flubbed a presentation or said something off-color to the boss or colleagues? Many of us wish we could stand up in the cubicle and call "Time Out" to devise a winning strategy during a TV commercial break.

Well, you can, formally or informally, force a time out by just walking away from the job. Of course, you should let your boss know what you're doing. Just don't walk away...

If you need time to recover from serious illness or injury you should take it. It is easier said than done. It takes planning and determination - it is hard to sit idle while your contemporaries are continuing with careers - but it might be necessary.

A doctor at Northwestern Medical Faculty Foundation in Chicago said to me that it "would be a good idea" for me to take off the rest of the summer in light of my bout with lung and heart sarcoidosis. We are trying to see if a course of drugs - prednisone, methotrexate, other stuff - will stem the tide of the disease. We keep checking the heart, which shows evidence of weakness, to see whether it can recover/rebound from the illness. There is improvement. If it does not get stronger, docs want to install an implantable cardioverter defibrillator in my chest to guard against sudden cardiac arrest. But as I just wrote, the heart is improving, so I want to give the drugs and exercise a little more time to work.

When it comes to rest, I'm taking the doctor's advice. I am interesting in getting well for the long term, not pleasing a boss in the short term. I have learned first hand that no matter how important you are to an organization and hire ups, you are replaceable. Heck, they just might fold your job to save money.

Your first loyalty is to yourself and your loved ones - family and friends. They are going to miss you when you are gone. And we don't want to leave sooner than later. So, if you need time to heal, consider a strategy that allows you to rest so you can be here as long as possible:

• Get financial affairs and health care in order - and adjust your budget to live on less

• Develop or find a support network. It might be family and friends. It might be a support group at a hospital or place of worship. Do not just sit alone or with people who do not understand or are unsympathetic to your situation.

• Really rest. Get to know your body, when it needs sleep, when it needs fuel. Limit alcohol consumption, quit smoking (I did. Finally took the Chantix. Cold turkey is too much, especially with so much going on right now). Exercise, but check with your doctor before you begin a regiment.

• Help others. Volunteering at a pet shelter, soup kitchen, tutor children; find an activity in which to participate so you stay active - remaining connected to community is important. Avoid becoming a recluse. Such a state is difficult from which to return

• Learn a new skill will recouperating, if health and strength and allows. When you re-enter the workforce, you can show potential employers you were not idle.

I thought long and hard about the pros and cons of taking a time out for health after reading that Scottish golfer Stephen Gallacher is seeking an exemption from the prefessional golfers' European Tour so he can rest and heal from a serious flare up of sarcoidosis.

Good luck, Stephen, and all the others brave and fortunate enough to take a time out to better their lives...